“….Every one of us have such an experience that at least once in our lives that we loved someone and expressed our love, but we weren’t believed; or someone expressed love to us, but we didn’t believe it. May be the communication didn’t work because the strategies didn’t match.
It is a very interesting process and a dynamic one that develops in relationships. In the beginning of a relationship, the stage of “courting”, we are very mobilized. So how do we let people know we love them? Do we just tell them that we love them? Do we just show them or just touch them? During “courting”, we do it all. We show each other, we tell each other, we touch each other all the time.
Now as time goes on, do we still do all three? Some couples do. They are exception, not the rule. Now, do we love the person any less? Of course not! We just aren’t as mobilized anymore. We feel comfortable in the relationship. We know that person loves us, and we love that person. So how do we now communicate our feelings of love? Probably just as we would like to receive it. If so, what happens to the quality of the feelings of love in the relationship?.......”
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